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Is cheating a forgivable sin?
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| Yes | 57% | 286 votes | Total: 500 votes | |
| No | 43% | 214 votes |
Yes
by M. F. Cunningham
Created on: August 04, 2010 Last Updated: August 05, 2010
Cheating in itself is a horrible experience to go through which can potentially ruin any relationship or marriage. If a person decides to stay in a relationship where cheating has occurred, then that person must find it in their heart to forgive.
The decision to forgive will not be an easy one but it is important to understand humans are imperfect beings prone to make mistakes. More often than not, real stupid ones. Infidelity in a relationship or marriage is a very painful experience and it has happened to most us. It has the tendency to destroy a person's self-esteem and their ability to trust which the relationship should have been built on.
If you are willing to remain in the relationship trust and honesty must be reestablished or forgiveness will be a failed attempt. Placing all the blame on the one who strayed will not help the situation. It is more common than not that both people had issues that were not being discussed.
Your partner might not agree or understand your issues. But if a choice is made to stay in the relationship, then some form of communication must be put to work. If someone truly loves someone, an episode of infidelity cannot change that feeling overnight. There is no doubt that the relationship will change but being remorseful for the pain caused can be the starting point of healing.
Forgiveness will take a lot of time but it can be done, we forgive others all the time. We forgive our mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, relatives, co-workers, etc. Sometimes it is not an easy thing to do, but we do it. It also takes a mature person to forgive and a mature person to say "I am sorry I was wrong". It will be important for the person who committed infidelity to say those words and ask for forgiveness no matter what the situation.
In order for the relationship to survive and be successful, forgiving must not be a half-hearted decision. It must be implemented completely. It would also be wise to seek a professional relationship counselor who will be impartial to the situation. The counselor can be an asset in helping any couple deal and cope with the issue of infidelity. The key to solving this issue will be communication exercises and helping the couples implement other solutions.
Both parties must be willing to start over building trust and honesty in the relationship. The ability to start anew can refresh and renew a failing marriage or relationship. Decide to forgive as you would want others to forgive you!
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No
by RichaArora
Created on: November 10, 2009 Last Updated: November 11, 2009
Before I begin justifying my side, I'd ask, What makes a person cheat? And, the reasons are all evil. Either it is to revenge a cheating partner or a momentary physical or emotional attraction. It is at times simply a means to fulfill a longing desire that is extremely selfish.
Are there any more reasons to cite? Ponder and tell me one good reason that makes a person eligible to cheat.
Now, what do you call a person who shoplifts? He picks things without telling the shop owner. Why? Simply because his wants outweigh his moral values. He could ask the shop owner for what he wants and if the reasons were genuine, no one would be hard-hearted enough not to donate for a justified cause.
Same goes with cheating your partner. If we called the shoplifter a thief, the cheater is a thief, too. You too are stealing the faith and love of your partner and the new-found love just to meet your selfish desires. If not that, then perhaps to fill the void of boredom!
Now, how ethical is that? How can you look up to yourself and respect yourself ever after? If you can give in to any weak moment, you are not a person enough!
Once committed, stay committed. Don't cheat not at least till you are together. Leave your partner, and do all that you want to -openly!
Maintain transparency. Let your partner know what they lack or can do better to help save your companionship, than finding alternatives. If nothing works out, better separate.
Be strong; face it and stand up to your commitment.
Your partner may have sacrificed a lot to be with you. Honor that and be kind enough to let your partner know your intentions so as to prepare them for the forthcoming troubles ahead of time.
No way will you be respected any longer, but yes if your partner truly loves you, you may get another chance.
Control your impulses.
Control your mind, polish your conscience, awaken your wisdom and then judge the situation before taking another step in the wrong direction.
Would you really be able to respect yourself in future after having spent a night with someone else? How would you feel if your partner did the same?
If it does not affect you, chances are that you have stopped too low to be able judge the difference between right and wrong. While your partner may forgive you, you can't and will never be able forgive yourself ever after.
Cheating is and will always be an unforgivable sin.
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