No

by Barbara Stanley

Created on: December 14, 2009

Does everyone have latent bisexual desires? I know that the answer to this question is, "No". If only one person can truthfully say that he or she has no sexual desire for the same sex, then it can safely be said that not everyone has latent desires of bisexual sex. The only way to answer a question that includes the word, "everyone", is to interview everyone. Since this quest would be prohibitive due to time and money, I will answer the question as if it were asked of me. I have no desires to have a sexual relationship or brief encounter with someone of my sex, which is female.

I remember a childhood friend who tried to kiss me when I was ten years old. We were playing "house" in her bedroom one Saturday afternoon. She wanted me to play the role of the husband, which I did. She explained that, as her husband, I should give her a kiss on the mouth when I came home from work. I refused on the grounds that the thought was "icky". She then tried to convince me that it would be good practice for when we first kissed a boy. I vetoed that suggestion also. The simple truth was, I had no desire to kiss a girl.

As I was growing up, I enjoyed the fact that I was a girl. I loved doing things that were considered very feminine. I played softball in the neighborhood with the other boys and girls, but I never refused the attention of a cute boy whenever I was hit by a wild pitch or skinned my knee sliding into home base. As much as I enjoyed the sport of baseball, I would not have played as many games if the team had been all females. It was the hard ruggedness of the male body that caught my attention and has held it ever since.

Through conversations with friends and other female family members, I can say that there are many females who have no desire to be with another female. Some male friends actually grew nauseous at the idea. It is just my opinion, but I believe that some homosexuals would like the world to believe that all people have latent homosexual desires. This would validate their own belief that same sex relationships are as natural as those of opposite sex relationships. They may cause a few people to doubt themselves, but the majority of people know how they feel about the matter and cannot be swayed to accept the notion that all people have within themselves the desire to go either way.

I have heard people say, and have read of others, that they knew from the time they were three or four years old that they were homosexuals. I find this very difficult to believe. I had no sexual desires until I was thirteen years old. What baby is thinking of having sex, whether it is with the same or with the opposite sex? These statements cause me to doubt anything else they put forth as evidence that they were born "this way". Any child under the age of eleven who is having strong sexual desires is likely to be a child who has been sexually molested several years.

Have I ever wondered about, or been tempted to kiss another female in a sexual way? No, I can honestly say that I have not. I love the differences in the sexes and how they complement each other. I love the strong arms of man around my waist. I enjoy enter-lacing my fingers with those of the male hand. I love the taste and feel of the male tongue in my mouth. If I have found complete joy and ectascy in the mating with the opposite sex, why would I consider having sex with myself? To be with another female would be like having sex with myself. I love myself and am comfortable with being a woman, but I just don't "feel that way" about myself. To each his own, but please don't tell me that I have desires that I am not aware of.

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