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Love and passion can be defined as two different feelings. One does not have to love per se in order to lust or to feel passion for an individual. Mistaking passion for love is an error many people seem to be making in today's world. They think they have found the love of their life but after awhile when the new wears off and all the warts appear, they realize they have an ordinary frog and not a prince, or princess as the case may be. Suddenly, passion wanes and the relationship is over.
Love is something that occurs over time, you don't fall in love at first sight, you fall "in lust" at first sight. Love may begin with a friendship that deepens over time and a fondness for your friend develops. Eventually the passion will come as it has since Adam and Eve. This is what makes the world go around.
However, there are many things in life that cause passion to decline and sometimes disappear from a relationship. This can be sickness or an accident with debilitating and lasting effects or it could be the gradual result of aging. If you are one of the lucky few who developed a friendship with a deep and abiding love your relationship will continue and possibly even reach a higher plane than the one which began with purely physical attraction.
Yes, I think true love can and does exist without passion. Passion is the icing on the cake and every relationship should experience it at one time or another, but it is very comforting to realize that your lover will still be your soul mate when and if passion is no longer there.
I am not saying that a relationship built solely on passion in the first place won't survive. If the parties in question take the time to really get to know the other person and find they have many things in common, if they become friends and soul mates, then they have a very good chance to make a go of it when things get tough. People need to take time to build their relationship, to make sure they have a good foundation that will endure even when life throws them a curve
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A lasting love is unconditional and is not demanding. One example of this is an elderly couple I was fortunate to know. The gentleman was dying; he reached for the hand of his wife who was sitting beside him. He looked at her and said, I wish you could breathe for me. The wife squeezed his hand and replied honey, I would if I could.
Learn more about this author, Joyce Bueter.
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What is love? To look after someone? Allow someone to take care of you? Doing things that you love perhaps means to do any act in the way that satisfied you, with care and professionalism and curiosity to discover new opportunities that will allow your creation to become even better, beautiful, useful, healthy.
Love, for me, is the continuous curiosity, which allow you to see old things in new light, to uncover new ones that remain in your heart and do not ever forget that nobody and nothing is perfect, neither you nor the things that you love and you need to forgive each other.
If you noticed, I'm not talking about male-female relations, I'm not talking about love and relationships. I talk about love when inhaling and exhaling. About love as the only possible form of the existing. Love, which is indeed an engine and power and leverage and feather-bed and stone - corner, and there are the lifeblood.
This love can not exist without passion. It's called a passion for life. And it must be put in everything you do - love. Passion makes you reckless, to take risks to win people, places, things. Passion is what ignites the motor. Love is what keeps it good working for a long time in unfamiliar lands. New things come to us because of our passion, but we keep knowledge of them and stay with them because of our love.
It is not possible without love there is passion. If there is no passion for life, what else would urge you to travel through thousands of events, people, miles to find what really will capture your heart? If it is not love, then what will make you stop, open your eyes and heart for what you encounter along the way? If you live without passion, you live in the desert. If you live without love, you traveling through the desert.
Maybe someone will challenge my assertion by saying that it is first passion, but over time it replaces love and everything calms down. But consider, if you are passionate about something or someone and that passion has led you to know Him, to love his imperfections, and sometimes they give you angry, and sometimes to think of love and all other good things, and these same imperfections touch your heart. Don't you think that's mean that is always a grain of passion in love. Because there is coffee without water, but you did not drink it that way, right?
There can be no love without passion or life without passion, because passion is the other name of the conquest of life and love is the way to sign a peace agreement with it.
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