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Add to FavoritesTrusting your own intuition has the same component as "gaydar". Conversation that does not flow naturally on prescribed topics that are not usually discussed freely by both sexes could make you think, "hmm." Yes, I admit it once was very uncommon for a man to be well-versed in women's fashion, makeup or so-called womanly topics. Also, for a woman to describe play by play what goes on on the football field or be a master manipulator in the boardroom or aka the b-word as so aptly called by some.
Thankfully, knowledge avails itself to us all and is available to who ever wishes to seek out topics that were once deemed only relevant to the opposite sex. Yes, it still feels quite unnatural to sit down with a man who wishes to gossip and speak harshly of other women. When cattiness prevails, it's time to dismiss yourself ladies. Go powder that nose.
Another telltale sign would be a keen interest in casting dispersions or keeping the gossip mill running with rumors and innuendos. I'm sorry; real men have much better things to do than discuss the pettiness of some women. Equally so, are women who choose to castrate the character of men at every opportunity. Women, who are comfortable with who they are, do not seek to male bash or overcompensate their imagined masculinity. Pointing out the attributes of another male may oust him out of the closet and raise him up from the down low.
Androgyny in women may be a current fashion trend. However, getting too comfortable in that way of dress and social manner may be highly suspect ladies. Freedom used to mean going braless and speaking your mind. Vulgarity is now replacing what was once deemed ladylike behavior. Women taking on assertive roles and being in charge has nothing at all to do with role reversal. In this day and age, it is common place for a woman to be the breadwinner. The role reversal has nothing at all to do with gaydar. Most times these role reversal are mainly to keep a family in tact in these stressful times.
What ever stimuli is causing you to think twice. It would be wise not to ignore your instincts, intuition, gaydar, whatever you wish to classify it as. Pay very close attention. Trust your instincts. Your instincts will never fail you. Continue to present the real you. Someone out there loves the real you. No pretense is needed.
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Gaydar, a term used for some people's intuitive ability to detect other people's propensity for being attracted to the same sex, is nothing more than a best guess. The term is meant to sound mechanical, like radar. But, radar is much more fool proof.
In actuality, if a person is gay and has not sworn themselves to a life of celibacy, they have to be willing to put out some clues. Those individuals that gift themselves with the power of "gaydar" are simply trying to say that they are better at pin pointing subtle hints than most of the other people they know.
Due to the delicate nature of sexuality, and society's sometimes complete aversion to homosexuality, some people are much more shy about the clues they make available. Subtlety is their best defence against prejudice and adverse reactions from their peers. After all, letting the wrong people know of a person's sexual orientation could impact their ability to not only earn a living but, also stay away from physical harm. Just look at what happened on Jenny Jones.
Some people are fearless, and some are defiant. Those that are really out there, or flaming, have gay written all over them and no amount of metro sexuality will cover it up. They are the ones that were assless chaps on top of the gay pride floats. Others, wear suits and ties to their jobs as CEO's of Fortune 500 companies and work toward curing childhood diabetes. Others still work as education professionals helping sculpt young minds. For those people, it would be career suicide to be so open about their personal choices. Still, everybody wants to be loved and has certain physical needs.
The other side of the coin is that it really does take one to know one. If we, ourselves, possess certain qualities, these are easier to detect in others. We know what to look for. A Polish person can spot another Pole from across a crowded room while staring at the back of their head. This is true for any group that is closely linked into their personal identity. This is no more a function of any sort of radar than an ability to be at peace with oneself and see in others mutually shared qualities. Those that profess to have "gaydar" are just looking for bragging rights and false attention. They are also the ones most likely to get beat to a pulp in a dark alley when their "gaydar" malfunctions at the wrong time, and in the wrong place.
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