Can a man be trusted to use male contraception?

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by Daniel Relph

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Well, that depends on the man. What is often overlooked is that women should ask themselves, Do I trust the man I am having sexual intercourse with? If the answer is no, then make sure you have the protection you need to keep from becoming pregnant.

Men are basically wired so that there is two factors that control the man's reproductive reactions. It is well known that many men will have sexual intercourse with as many women as possible. Instinctively this response is due to the male of the species wanting to maximize the number of genetic descendants. The other factor is that men want the woman or women to care for his children so they will survive to adulthood. This second factor is controlled by love, which implies trust. There are men that are mainly controlled by the urge to impregnate as many women as possible and there are men that are basically controlled by the urge to impregnate only the women they trust and love. You know which type of man you're sleeping with.

Both men and women instinctively want to reproduce, but both men and women have brains. The brain usually overrides our instincts. Factors like economic and relational stabilities come into play. Factors like the number of children already conceived will also come into play. A man who has not fathered a child will be more inclined to succumb to the reproductive urges; and, the same thing is true of a woman. One might ask with equal validity, can a woman be trusted to use contraception?

When talking about contraception one has to remember that there are two instinctive urges. One is to reproduce and maintain your genes in the gene pool. The other is to copulate and enjoy the orgasmic response. The instinctive urge to reproduce can have a definite effect on the orgasmic response. Love and trust come into play here. Loving the person you are copulating with means that you want that person to have the maximum orgasmic response so they will keep coming back for more; and be a part of the reproductive process that involves the many years needed for raising children to adulthood.

The man you're sleeping with may have fathered your children; if that is the case then you can trust him more. Instinctively he wants and needs you to help raise his children to adulthood and instinctively you want him to help you raise your children to adulthood. If there is no love and trust between you and the man, then you're there to purely satisfy your lust and you should insure you're protected yourself against unwanted pregnancies; ironically so should the man.

Male contraceptives are still in the labs except for two common methods. Condoms are the most commonly used for unmarried couples. Vasectomies are more common for married couples and men that have already have children and been divorced. Never take a man's word for it that he has had a vasectomy; you should know. Remember, you know when he is using a condom.

Another common method of birth control for men is withdraw. You should never trust a man to withdraw and expel his semen outside of you during an orgasm and never under estimate your ability to hold a man in during an orgasm. Withdraw should not be considered as a means of contraception in that even when accomplished correctly the man can only insure the major part of his semen is ejaculate outside of you. You will still receive a smaller part of his semen and it only takes one tiny sperm cell to get you pregnant.

Ideally you should only copulate with a man you love and trust, but we all know that are all weak when it comes to lust. We should all remember that lust is related to reproductive urges and those urges often overcome our common sense. Sex is not just copulating. Sex involves copulation, pregnancy, and raising children. If you are stirred by lust and find yourself in situations where copulation might be possible then have a stash of condoms. Make sure all of your children are wanted and loved by you and your husband.

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