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Add to FavoritesWhen my husband and I began our blissful journey down wedding lane, a video photographer joined us for the ride. When we gave birth to our first bouncing baby boy, our budget was slightly less extravagant; and my father-in-law followed behind our car, to record his first Grandson's initial journey into his humble, but loving home. The significance of these videos in all our lives is priceless.
My husband and I used to say jokingly, that when the children misbehaved, instead of punishing them, we would force them to watch the Wedding Video, again! The roles seem to have reversed, now that most of our children have reached maturity. They beg us, on Saturday nights, to watch the wedding video. They long to see Mom with her flowing, blond hair, or Dad in his youth. My teen are amazed to find that their parents once embraced their own youth, and rivaled the likeness of their beauty. Maybe those reasons alone are sufficient reasons to record your Wedding Day.
The mind, as vibrant as it is, has a funny way of excluding some of our memories as time lingers on. Those memories can be as simple as a loving glance from a love-sick wife, or a husband- to- be refusing to see a flaw in his beautiful bride. Watching a wedding video reminds our hearts, as well as our minds, why we really fell in love and the innocence lost in our youth. Memory Lane grips our busy human spirits, and reminds us what is real; it grounds us.
The gifts a video offers are priceless. Its a way to reenact something that once was frozen in time; thaw out the actors, and allow other to become a part of something they never had the privilege to experience. Specifically, my children have embraced being honored guests at their parent's wedding, even if they are slouching on the couch and munching on popcorn. Moreover, we have had the greatest gift of all, by preserving the beloved people who have passed away. Forever these people will be engraved in our hearts; but how precious a gift, to have them still in our vision. To hear their sweet voices say "I love you" and to see their gentle gestures; these are the numerous gifts that video recordings offer. Just knowing that I will never loose that day, a time when my family was so beautiful; a time when youth and innocence were captured, is truly a precious gift.
I advise anyone to record their wedding, it is something to pass on to those who love you and those who will come in future generations. Our past is what makes up our future; how sad to deny anyone access to the people who paved their pathway to happiness. So record freely, show those pearly whites, and be confident that your love will be captured for those who you have yet to encounter.
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No, the wedding should not be recorded.
You know, majority will be surprised at this and say hey, why the hell should we not record it? They will say these words in a tone and face as if I said that the sun is just big light bulb. As if our ancestors had no happy lives without recording it. They will say that the idea of video recording of the wedding comes to us from ancient civilizations, they will even tell me strictly (with a finger pointed upwards) that even our father Adam had its wedding recorded with Eve? They will tell us that wedding recordings were found in pyramids of Egypt, In Noah's Arc, in China's Great Wall, etc... Reasons? We must do it for that and that, ah also for that (long list here by the way).
But primarily, they say we must record it so that when we grow older, we can watch it and with tears in our eyes see how young we were, how energetic and smiling all the time, how good we kissed and hugged and cried. This seems good eh? Who can suspect anything here, any hidden psychological bombs which will explode in due time, any feelings of missing, any pains...?
And there it goes, all over again. Every year, every five years, decades. Time comes when we see some blurred figures on a white something, that is our vision grew dim? And what. Will that help us, will that comfort us and help to overcome the stress of realising that the time grows short, we get older and older and soon the end will come. Will that help us in thinking that it will never ever come back. There will be no second time. And surely there will be people on the video, who by the time we see them next time will not be among us any more. They would be gone, but their images, their smiles, their hugs and toasts are there. And what feelings will they arise in us? May be feelings that the same thing awaits us?
What if a couple being wed, divorces in time, what will happened to recording. Will be it deleted, will it be thrown in a big box what bundles of some other unnecessary things only to be lifted to the attic and stays there for God know how long. What it completely strange people will watch this recording. What feelings will they have. What if children will watch it, what will they think, will they notice how old their parent became, or may be they will try to imitate everything...
And soon we will realize that instead of watching the video per se and enjoying it, we would be engulfed in sad thoughts. Desperation will be waiting behind the screen to haunt us still long periods after we finished watching the video. So is not this enough to hint and advice us on one sure thing - IT IS BETTER NOT TO RECORD OUR WEDDING THAT TO RECORD. Why? For practical reasons and here are they in short: Instead of giving joy and bringing good thoughts, they will sooner or later bring negative thoughts to us and remind us constantly that the past is gone forever and the same sweet things will never happened to us. They are gone forever.
So it is up to you to do it or not, dear reader. But mind my advice - the best place to record it is you own memory for it is with you forever.
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