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Add to FavoritesIf you ask me men have always look for another way out of doing what they were created to do since the beginning of time. When God told Adam not to eat from the tree of life and He made Adam the caregiver of the garden, Adam wanted someone to help him care for this large job and so God gave him a helpmate and that is the beginning of woman the maid. Wonder who was raking up the leaves. Really why is that men are looking for a woman and what do he want from her but a way out of what he is suppose to be doing.
Todays relationships with the mother and father gives the father a way out of the responsibilities of caring for the children like a real father. The mothers of today are single mothers even if there is a father present in the house. Most fathers think it is ok if they just go to work and bring home the money to take care of the bills as if this is all that is needed and not them helping with the children or taking care of the needs of the wife other than sex.
The biggest problem I find with all of this is that we women have made it easy for men to escape from not only their responsibilities as husbands but just being part of the household and doing what is needed and not having to be told what to do or how to act in the family setting. Women are really the stronger ones of the sexes, if you think about it we have been the ones since the beginning of time to take charge of things when men let the ball fall.
I know we women have our share of issues and a lot of them are due to the ball droppers and if we didn't have to be wonder woman and the woman of many hats than maybe we wouldn't have so many issues. It is noted that men have a hard day at work and that when they get home, but is it fair to think that the job of a woman is small and that dealing with the office and then the children and the house shores that what we do is easy and the we don't need the help of the man that vowed to be there and be a team in this relationship.
Women of need to slow things down and start making men step up and holding them responsible for the share of the the relationship will make them better understand that this is a two person relationship and not a woman only. It seems as men think that women want to be a multi hat wearer. Women should remember that they don't have to prove anything to men or to the world that they can measure up to what people say they should and only care about measuring up to what God and themselves want. If we et men continue to be allow to escape the responsibilities of being a man and doing what a man should then they will continue to do what we let them.
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"HELL to the NO", as my younger co-workers would say. Modern day relationships are NOT giving men excuses to escape from responsibilities. It would in fact seem that there are nothing BUT responsibilities for men in modern day relationships. Unless you're what is known as a PUA (Pick-Up Artist), once you enter into a relationship you are...
A) The Concierge. Pick out the entertainment-after ensuring it suits her. While it would be great for women to suggest a date (and/or pay for it), it's mostly unheard of.
B) The Chauffeur. To their credit, some women will meet you half-way with the driving in a relationship. I can see this trend unfortunately declining as gas prices increase.
C) The Bodyguard. At any sign of trouble, it is the unwritten law that the man in the relationship will spring into action and crush, kill, destroy, maim, cripple, snap, immolate and/or vaporize any and all threats. As this is a genetic impulse, 'responsibility' doesn't really apply. It can even be a thrill, and an opportunity to display strength, courage and machismo. Provided you don't end up dead. This is actually only a problem in relationships where the woman likes to start fights in order to see 'her hero' in action.
D) The Banker/Loan Officer/Human ATM, unless you're one of those lucky guys who have found a 'sugar mama'. While 'sugar mamas' seem like dreams come true, they actually deplete a man's self-esteem and personal power over time. The best relationships are when both partners share their resources for the good of the relationship. Some women are stepping to the plate and contributing, but the majority still believe that sex is the only contribution they need to make.
These four responsibilities are necessary in the 'courting' stages of a relationship. Should the relationship proceed further, into cohabitation or marriage, add the following:
E) The Laborer. The yard, the trash, the plumbing, the electrical work, the major repairs and heavy lifting are left to the man. While women may cook and clean-with the latter bordering on an obsession complex-they will wisely draw the line at any labour that may break either nails or backs. No harm, no foul, except when the 'honey-do' list comes into existence and they add more work than necessary.
F) The Breadwinner. Goes without saying. Economic necessity may stipulate that a woman can, should, or must bring in an income in order to maintain the household, but they can opt out via pregnancy & motherhood. Men cannot. They can try, but will find themselves out on the tiles before too long.
I personally find the title of this particular debate ludicrous. With the majority of divorces being initiated by women, shouldn't the debate be titled "Are modern day relationships giving women excuses to escape from responsibilities"? I would also say that men don't have excuses to escape from responsibilities (there will always be responsibilities, even if only to oneself), they have reasons to opt out of them altogether. Various groups like MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) and Men's Rights Groups are showing that an underreported but significant sexual sea change is underway.
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