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Add to FavoritesNow, here is a twisted engagement for you. If a person is divorced and finds later that there is someone that they care deeply for even possibly have fallen in love with but do not have a commitment from that person but go and buy a ring signifying their love for that person and no one else is that a semi-engagement? I think it is.
Sometimes people can fall in love with someone and never marry them for reasons many. Such as they are already married and don't know how you feel. Or they do know how you feel and you are rejected on the spot. But none the less are you any less engaged if you never consumate the relationship but linger on a holding pattern living in a delirium of hope?
Love is often unrequited and therefore many engagements are semi-engagements. A person wearing a ring for a love unrequirted can be as much devoted to that person than a person who ends up marrying the person that they have accepted or asked to marry them on bended knee.
Some love relationships are unspoken but very meaningful and fulfilling. There are many people who work side by side with a person they are deeply devoted to and love beyond most peoples imaginations but never reveal their true feelings due to circumstances beyond their control. Are they any less engaged? I don't think they are? I believe that love comes from within and if you feel engaged to someone you love from the bottom of your heart ring or no ring you are in a state of engagement.
Engagement rings are like signals to the world at large that you are spiritually involved with another person and it is a signal of negativity as well as positivity. On the negative side you don't want to have some suitor persueing you, for the signal is out that you are engaged. On the other hand the signal is positive to the person you are planning on sharing your life with or your lifes' dream with if it is unrequited. It is reassuring or annoying depending on what the relationship stands for.
If you are both mentally and emoitionally engaged with each other from a spiritual perspective then it is a rewarding feeling to see the ring of attachment with the hope of the future. But on the other side of the coin if you are engaged to the unengageable person then that person sees you with a distaste and annoying feeling as he would know that the ring is a presumbtion and not a reality and may cause an upset in that persons' life with his real engagement or wife if that engagement has full filled itself through marriage and possibly a family.
The engagement unfulfilled becomes fodder for the gossip mongers in any community. It would be best if one wants to promise oneself to another person without their permission to wear something around their neck as a symbol of devotion rather than an out and out symbol of engagement such as a ring.
At one time back in the forties a person usually received a watch prior to an engagement ring. This was quite acceptable and not only that it gave both parties time to evaluate whether they wanted to vow their lives to each other or whether they want to break it off.
Actually this is a good practice as no one is offended or imbarrassed by a broken engagement. The watch symbolizes that both are thinking to whether they want to invest more serious time with each other rather than make a total commitment that may not be the right decision at that time in their lives.
In summation an engagement is only an engagement if a ring is given by one party and accepted by the other. That makes for a true engagment. So without a ring there is no engagement and two individuals involved it is not an engagement. A ring seals the situation away it is egual to a unwritten and implied contract. The implications are positive and commitment is the final outcome. There have been cases where one has sued for "breach of trust" or "breach of promise" when engagements are broken off.
So "NO" and engagement without a ring is not an engagement, the ring is equal to cash tender in a contract! The buck begins here!
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Yes
by Candy Jules
People can be engaged more than one or two times. Rings are just an expensive token that symbolizes the engagement. You can definitely be engaged without an engagement ring.
A wedding ring is a different story. It is the eternal circle. No beginning, no end. It's for a liketime. Exactly what marriage should be. My husband and I have matching wedding bands that are beautiful. On the inside is inscribed "Loves Duet." I always worked around patients in the hospital's and nursing homes, and diamonds of any size, can rip the flesh of an elderly person so quick.
I've never been a diamond person. I don't like fancy dishes, nor do I own a set of silverware. It's all just material items that wither with time. My little round band is the token of our love for one another. I never needed a big rock to prove that he loved me.
I know how important it is for some women to want an engagement ring. But it's more of a status symbol. The bigger the carat, the showier the ring. That's not what love is all about. Do you know how many young men put themselves so far in debt, just to buy their girl an engagement ring to show off. That's a debt that follows both bride and groom right into the marriage.
Being engaged is like a solemn promise to unite yourself to one another when the day of your ceremony comes. You share a love that should be for all eternity as you become one. In the vows, it says; "With this ring I thee wed." It doesn't say "these rings," You only need one band to encircle you, binding you together.
If you want to get a diamond later, then I would say, "Do so." It would be a beautiful firsy anniversary present. It's hard for newly married kids to get on their feet when they are first married. The wedding alone has bankrupted dad's bank account. Just think about the downpayment you could have made on a house, if you had put the money for the wedding there instead.
Dream weddings are every young girl's dream. Her ring, her gown, the church and all the flowers. Plus the five hundred people that were invited to attend. The vows are said, the second ring goes on, and they live happily ever after.
If only that were true. Very few marriages last in these days. So much money down the drain, so much heartache, and broken dreams.
I have some friends right here in town that have been married for 76 years. I'm old, and I haven't even lived that long. The older the generation, the longer they stay married. And she has always worn just one band on her finger. Her love was for her man and their son's. Two of their son's have already passed on.
What is so special about an engagement ring? Look forward to the wedding where you can have the man you love, not some fancy ring. What happens if you loose it down the drain. The ring may be gone, but I'll bet your husband is still there. What's more important?
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