Yes

by Gary Maclean

Created on: February 24, 2009   Last Updated: March 16, 2011

Oh, to have a wife who loves me as I love her. To know a person who would share their life with me and bring me into their bosom. To know the true ecstasy of everlasting love. To share the emotion that swells my heart at the thought. There is no other way to truly realize my objective, other than to marry the woman I must have.

I am a marrying kind of guy. I sort of wish I wasn't, but, alas, I am. Seldom have I had a "girlfriend." Perhaps for a few months but she then mysteriously becomes my wife. I have spent single nights with un-named women in unidentified places but they were not girlfriends. The "single night" woman is indeed a treasure for she offers her favors and demands so little in return. She does not have to be a girl friend, she can be an acquaintance. I have been with many different "single night" women but seldom a real girlfriend.

I am married right now and it is for the third time. I am in my very late 50's, so I truly hope this is the last time I marry. I am convinced I have stumbled upon my one true pull-apart. This marriage will last forever, I am certain. Of course, I did have that same thought process on both of my previous marriages. The first time I was married for seven years and the second time for 17 years. Now, on my third attempt, I have been married for 15 years.

Things happen, people change, desires change, the answer seems always to be divorce. In my first marriage I wed the first woman who ever paid any attention to me at all. I was 17 and she was 16. By the time I was 18 and she was 17 we were married. This was my very first love, my true destiny. This was the first woman to introduce me to the pleasures and fantasies of sexual exploration. I was hypnotized. She was everything to me, at least for the first couple of months.

That marriage quickly fell apart as she suddenly realized she really didn't want to be married. She preferred her single life, drinking, spending time with other men, and all in all, having a good old time as a single woman. However, that marriage was still worth it. It was an eye opening experience. I was with her through two pregnancies; one of them probably mine, though he could be the son of her sister's husband, and one of them by a guy called "Spider." Spider was her companion while I was in the Army, doing what all young American men must do.

But, it was worth it, because I learned so much to prepare me for my next wife. I learned what not to accept and what to keep an eye out for. I learned how to protect myself and how to heal when the inevitable happens. Through it all I also had a good time. So, yes, marriage is worth it.

My second marriage was truly the one fashioned in Heaven. We met, our eyes locked and the rest is history. She was a naive 17 year old, still in High school, who had never even been out of her home town. I was the well traveled, ex-GI, who had already been married once and was full of knowledge and expertise. I brought her from her naive, innocent existence to one of total independence. We married, had two beautiful children, both of whom are indeed mine, and built a firm foundation for our growing family.

Then her new found independence got in the way. She was no longer, in her words, my "Little Suzie home maker." She had thoughts and ideas of her own. She had a world to see and a world of people to meet. I had cut her "coming out" short by snatching her right from high school. So, after 17 years, we realized we had become two different people and we didn't love each other like we used to any longer. But, that marriage was so worth it. I have two extremely beautiful, loving children. I would never have them were it not for that marriage.

My third marriage is where I am today. I have everything, you heard right, everything! Zero complaints, no exceptions, absolute Nirvana! This marriage is so worth it because finally, I have been able to do it right. I have met the one person in the world who was intended for me and me for her. We are so much alike and so much in love that we need for nothing or no one. To spend my life entirely with my wife, and my wife alone, is my only prayer. Fifteen years later and we are both deeply in love.

This marriage is worth it because it gives me a companion to spend my last years with. She tends to me, takes care of me, loves me and I her. We are celebrating our good fortune every single day. You can have associates, those you spend time with, or acquaintances, those you know but spend so little time with, or even friends, if they are in existence. But, you will never equal the rewards you get from that one special and prophesied marriage. Find the right one and everything is worth it!

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