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Add to FavoritesAs a survivor of rape, not just once, but several times in my life, I can say that it is not something for which you can prepare. There are as many different kinds of rape as there are different kinds of people. The first time I was raped, I was only seven years old. I was raped by a 40 year old man who was supposed to help look after me. He was my step-father. The next time I was raped, it was by my husband. I was quite ill, and had gone to bed, telling him that I was not feeling well, and asking him to leave me alone. I awoke to him pinning me down and forcing himself into me. I vomited. The third time I was raped, I was walking in a public park in the middle of the day. A man, whose face I never saw, dragged me down from behind, restrained me, and put a knife to my neck. And, finally, the last time I was raped was when I was in the military, and a higher ranking person forced his way into my room and quickly overpowered me. The last thing I saw before he left was the sight of him taking off a condom. How does someone prepare for that kind of calamity? If there was only one way to rape a person, then maybe there would be a manner in which to prevent it.
Since there is no set way to prevent a rape from occurring, then there is no way to hold the victim in any way responsible for the action done to him or her. Some say that living a certain lifestyle "invites" a rapist. Does that mean that people who drive nice cars, or collect expensive items in their homes are "inviting" burglars and car-jackers? Or, perhaps, those seeking entrepreneurship are "inviting" scammers. Maybe people who like to surf the Internet are "inviting" viruses, or people who like to shop on-line are "inviting" identity theft. I do not believe a rapist needs an invitation, anymore than does a burglar, a car jacker, a hacker, or a virus. A rapist is going to strike regardless. From experience, I can tell you that it doesn't matter what you wear.
The last issue I would like to discuss is the responsibility of reporting the rape. I can tell you why rapes do not get reported. The police always start tearing apart the credibility of the victim before deciding whether or not to pursue the perpetrator. this gives the perpetrator plenty of time to either disappear, or to assist in tearing down the credibility of the victim. It does not matter who the victim is, or what mistakes the victim made earlier in life. when a victim endures the public humiliation of coming forth and admitting that he or she was attacked, all the police need to investigate is the crime, and stop helping the criminal to further harm the victim. Just because a victim does not come forward, does not mean that the victim is being irresponsible. It means the victim realizes that the police will waste time investigating the victim rather than the crime.
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Some victims of rape are irresponsible. That of course does not mean that they are inviting rape, however it does cause them to become engulfed in situations where a rape is viable to take place.
The Club Scene:
At a club a person is able to let their inhibitions go. They can dance the night away, and go to the bar in order to grab a drink to refreshed up before another bout of dancing takes place. An overindulgence in drink causes a person's behaviour to become loose, and this makes an impression of the wrong sorts as dancers watch the person on the floor with their inhibitions gone and their minds on total non-control. In this instance the person who has overdone it can be taken outside by a bouncer. This can make the person angry, and cause them to make a scene on the street. This may draw in an audience, or a crowd. The person who has been over-partying may make an instant friend who is able to coax them into walking away.
This added friend may slip a person a pill, or ask them out for another drink. The over-partier in distress may on the whim take this offer. This leads them into a high risk situation.
If the person is able to get them into a car they may be raped
If the person is able to get them to a quite spot they may be raped
If the person is able to get them home they may be raped
If the person is able to get them unconscious they may be raped
The Rebel Group:
The rebel group refers to a group of people who combine in order to take down the rules of the world in order to make up their own rules. This may attract those who are wanting to break free of a wrecked home life, or an intolerable one, and cause a mingling which does more harm rather then good. A person who slips into this group, may be introduced to the bad side of sexual exploration as a result of wanting to hang out with the rebel group. This may be done by one person, or many people. This can result in rape of all kinds of levels.
The Crush:
A person who has a crush may get a date with the person they have been batting eyes at for weeks. This may be very exciting, especially when all the senses are all a flutter over having achieved the date. Happiness may be beaming from the person who has the celebrity crush on their favourite person, and this may be read as being ready for more then just a normal date. The person with the crush as a result may end up being raped by the crush. This may be classified as a date-rape, and wreck whatever innocence the person with the crush has in their eyes or minds.
The Home-life:
Yes, a person can get raped in the doors of their own home. This can be done because a sibling has gotten too big to live at home, and as a result is being treated as one who is too dunce for the community in order to achieve any sort of normal life, or is being treated as rot until they get the desire to leave. This can be done as a result of personality clashes which result from sibling rivalry, as a member of the household desires to grow up and out of the house. This can also be done as a result of being an in-house drinker, or party goer. Or this may be a result of being a house-wife who is dependable on their spouse for living purposes.
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