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Same race versus cross-race youth mentoring: Does it make a difference?

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Yes

by Sharon Cowles

Created on: May 12, 2008   Last Updated: May 13, 2008

The politically correct answer is no; the reality is yes, according to my racially diverse high school students. I agree with them. Race makes a difference; however, is that difference an issue? It might be, depending upon the objectives of the mentoring program.

I talked to my high school students, a mixture of Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Christian, atheist, Korean, Indonesian, African American, Caucasian, Chinese, and Mexican, ranging from affluent to publicly assisted, all attending an inner-city magnet school. They universally agreed that race did matter in a mentoring program. Their specific example: the mentor to help them adjust to the magnet program would have been someone of their own race and own socio-economic background. They felt this person would have understood the challenges they faced and would have been, in their eyes, more credible than simply any random, even if successful, student at the school.

My Korean students told me they definitely would want a Korean mentor, someone who had to speak Korean at home and English at school, who came to our school system and had to take classes while knowing only a few phrases of English, who had to attend Saturday Korean math classes, who had the same pressure placed on them to excel. I see their point. An African American student told me she came from a low-income school that did not meet federal standards for Adequate Yearly Progress in their academics and where Caucasian students were the minority; she wanted a mentor from the same background and, yes, the same race

The school teaches tolerance, and these students all work together, engage in extra-curricular activities together, tutor one another, attend each other's performances, date one another, and provide an incredible support network for each other. These students definitely interact freely while sharing their differing cultures and learning from one another.

However, when it comes to having a mentor that is suppose to help them cope/learn/grow/guide, they want someone with a similar background. If the similar background involves racial components, they want someone of the same race. Some of them even wanted a mentor of the same race regardless of the mentoring program's objectives.

Their example: if they are trying to transition from playing chords to notes on a guitar, then their mentor would be someone who has done the same, and race really should not be an issue. However, even at this level, several minority students still indicated that they would be more interested in working with someone of the same race, even if that person were not as successful in the transition from chords to notes as a person of a different race.

As adults, we can expound upon the idealist viewpoint that race should not matter. Perhaps it shouldn't, but to teenagers struggling to figure out their world, it apparently does.

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No

by Dorothy Jo Bourbeau

Created on: April 14, 2008   Last Updated: May 13, 2008

While many will say that mentoring should only be done by some one of the same race because children need to learn about their cultures I think that the important thing is that the child be given the opportunity to get something they otherwise would not have access to. I raised three children alone, one of them was a son, he was lucky enough to have a grandfather who was willing to do the "man" things with him.

Boys need the influence of a man in their lives, girls need the influence of a women. If for whatever reason they can not get that influence at home then they can turn to a mentor. You do not need to be of the same race to teach a boy how to fish or play baseball, or to teach a girl how to sew or make cookies. Children for the most part don't see race, they see an adult who is willing to take the time to do things that the child wants to do.

Learning about cultures is important because the more we learn about others the more tolerant we become. Why should this make a difference on mentoring? If the child being mentored is a different race from the mentor, why can't they teach each other about their respective cultures?
If the child has no one at home to teach him/her about his/her culture than the mentor could set aside some time for both of them to learn. How you ask. Here are a few suggestions.

1. Libraries. A wonderful source of information. The bigger the library the more information available.

2. Religious leaders. If you live in a community where a child may be paired with a mentor of another race then there is a good chance that the community has at least one church in which the congregation is the same race as the child.

3. The elderly. Many elderly people are lonely, they would welcome the chance to visit with someone. They also have many things to teach. Let's face it you can't live 80+ years without learning something.

4. The internet. If it can't be found on the world wide web it doesn't exist.

Whether or not the mentor and the child are the same race is not important. What is important is that the mentor is willing give the child quality time. The job of the mentor is to fill a gap in the child's life, being willing to learn about the child's culture and help the child understand that culture will only make the mentoring a better experience. It will show the child that the mentor is interested in what is important to the child.M Any member of any race has the power to make a child feel important. Making a child feel important is a good thing. Mentors are mentoring because they want to do a good thing.

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