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Heck yes! Dump the jerk! Another married man? Well, who is he? Another jerk?
I am an old guy with quite extensive experience in three broadly defined cultures: U.S.A., Western Europe and Latin America. All three of these cultures have much in common when it comes to marriage: It is often a nightmare! It is a nightmare for both women and men.
Wow! How lucky people are if they find someone with whom they can live in peace and grace. It really doesn't matter whether they marry that person. It is just so nice to be with someone who is sympathetic and kind.
But, such cases are, statistically, pretty rare.
I am a male feminist. So, women, do not attack immediately. I have lived long enough to have enjoyed the good old days when I did whatever I pleased and my woman just had to endure because she had no apparent economic choice.
Well, I did enjoy it! I had a woman who knew her place-. She absolutely depended on me. We had two beautiful children. We both loved them. She was not enough sexually. So I did what I wanted to do with any woman attractive and available to me. For me, it was a great life.
But then, in the mid 1960's, things changed. She began to see other possibilities, she studied. She found a job which paid her well. She went out into the world. She met a fellow a few years younger than she. She eventually left the jerk (me). She and the new fellow have been happy for years. She made a decision which was very beneficial to her.
There are, of course, many related questions. This woman and I both loved our children. We were not vindictive. We both did everything possible to advance the happiness and well being of the children. And they really prospered. Their mother was much more happy than she would have been with me. I was much more happy than I would have been with her. The kids spent time with both of us. They developed into well adjusted and successful adults.
As in all such emotional situations, the true key to successful resolution is the level of maturity and good will of the people involved. Be grown up! Do not be vindictive! Accept that marriage is very difficult and that you may be with an individual with whom you will never be able to live!
Learn more about this author, Lj Jaime Cordle.
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Have you ever heard of the phrase, "The grass is always greener on the other side"? You have? Then tell me what sense, realistically, does it make to dump one husband and run off with another. What looks initially like a bed of roses is inevitably going to turn out not to be! I mean, if you leave your husband for a man that is still married and doesn't intend to leave his wife, then that surely leaves you 'up the creek without a paddle. On the other hand if you leave your husband for one who is prepared to leave his wife too, what does that make the both of you, and why are you both running away?
Nobody ever claimed that life was easy. Why would it be, and why should it be? If we sailed on by everyday without a care in the world, after a while what would be the point? Nothing challenging or interesting would ever happen. On the same note, marriage isn't supposed to be easy. 'Yes' it isn't supposed to be a battle everyday, an uphill struggle that leaves you exhausted at every turn, but it isn't supposed to be easy! It takes work on both parts!
I question the people that would even reply 'yes I would dump my husband for another married man'. What planet are you on? Mars? The moon? Do things look different from way up there? The rest of us my friends are here on earth. We are grounded in the everyday reality that ensures we don't run off to crazy town! If you are still in your marriage and you meet and decide to run off with another man, what kind of person are you? Were you going through your everyday motions looking for another man because you got bored? Wake up! If you are so unhappy take a break from the marriage, before looking for your next partner. Sit down and talk to your spouse, have you ever heard of that? Communication is the key, or so they say! Go to marriage counselling, but for heavens sake don't just step into a relationship with another married man because it's easier. It isn't easier, it ruins lives!
If you have been stuck in a marriage that is abusive verbally, emotionally or physically then by all means GET OUT! Just don't get out and walk straight into another relationship with a married man. Maybe there is a married guy that has really been there for you, helped you gain the confidence to walk away, but that doesn't mean you should be in a relationship with him. Take time for yourself now, to understand you, embrace you! You'll find another man when you are good and ready.
So, in conclusion we can say simply this; If you are going to leave one relationship and move into another, DON'T! Take some time out, especially if you're thinking about a relationship with a married man.
Learn more about this author, Andrea-Lee Peters.
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