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Add to FavoritesI just want to put out there that I'm not saying that EVERYONE's grandparents are a burden. From my experiences though, I honestly believe that mine was. My grandmother was an on again / off again grandmother. She'd feel to the need to take me every once in a while when I was younger, which was fine, but then there would also be some times where she would just rather have nothing to do with me. Now, she is in no way a bad grandmother when she wants something to do with me. But it all just depended on whether she wanted to be a grandmother that day or not. There were times when I would not see or hear from her for over 3 monthes! To me, when your a grandmother, you don't just pop in when you feel like it. Your a grandmother all the time, and your grandkids do eventually figure out that you'd rather be out doing other things than getting to know you, and and I know I always wondered why 'Nana didn't love me as much'. Now, at the age of 20, my grandmother always wonders why I really don't want that much to do with her. Well, I love my grandmother and all, but i'm not too fond of the fact that she would currently rather spend time with her boyfriend's family, than mine. It's currently my mom, my daughter, and I and we pretty much have no family besides her. But to tell you the truth, it feels like she isn't even apart of a this family. I hope other peoples grandparents aren't the same as mine, because there are certaintly times where I wish that I had a grandmother to do things with, but she kind of dug her own hole and she now has to live with it. Not that shes trying to change our relationship anyway. Ok, so maybe I'm a little bitter and biased to this question, but I'm stating from my point of view and experiences. When someone has a grandmother like mine, yes, they are a burden. And the fact that it hurts the kids more than the grandmother just blows my mind. It's sad knowing that you have family, but no one is actually really like a family member to you. Even on the day of my own father's death, my grandmother didn't stay around. She stopped by, gave me and my mother a hug, and then left... to go to her boyfriend's house. To me, that is a little disturbing and upsetting. Technically though, I can also agree that it is not a burden to have a grandparent as a friend, because my mother is a wonderful grandmother to my daughter. She would do anything for her, and spends loads of time with her. I just wish I had gotten the same treatment from my grandmother as my daughter gets from hers.
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I can't even believe this is up for debate. My grandparents have passed down integrity, strength, motivation, and the will to follow my dreams. I've learned so much from them its amazing. When I go to their farm in eastern Kentucky I follow my grandfather everywhere he goes and I don't regret a second of it. From teaching me how to show respect, to showing me how to catch fish, he's always been there to teach me the most valuable things in life. My grandfather is everything to me. He greets everyone with a smiling face and is understanding. "Quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger". I love being around him, and my only regret is that I couldn't spend more time with him. He's the kind of guy that you just dream, you dream and dream to meet. He farms tobacco every day, thats hard work. Does he ever complain, no. You know why? Because thats what he has to do to feed his family and to make those around him happy. He'll work extra, harder, and faster than anyone just so that he can take me and my cousin fishing in the summer. My grandfather doesn't have to do this. He could simply step back, get retirement, and watch airplanes fly by, but he doesn't. He works. He works hard. And he cares. My grandfather gave me one of his knives that he carried for years, and I'll never let it go. My grandmother also is a guiding figure in my life. She gets up every Sunday, early, just to volunteer to teach a class at her church. Did I mention at 5 o'clock that morning too to make a huge lunch that thanks to its good taste will be all over the county by noon. Yes, it's really that good. She always goes the extra mile to make those around her happy, if I didn't have her I wouldn't be half the person I am today. I love her so much. She always teaches to be kind, make exceptions, and listen. This is shown to me every time I'm with her. She has never said a harsh word, never frowned upon another, never looked down upon someone, which is something most of us do everyday. She has always been there for a good talk, a good laugh, and she has always been one to listen to me. Without my grandparents I'd be nothing. So they are defiantly my friends. And they love me, and I will make sure to reflect that love straight back to them.
Learn more about this author, Danny Smiles.
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