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Add to FavoritesIt's Valentine's Day, and you just decorated your apartment for the most romantic evening she has ever had in her life. There are rose petals all over the floor and in the bathtub, along with her favorite bubble bath. You have a wonderful meal baking in the oven, and you have your gift wrapped up and ready for her approval. There's just one problem. She forgot that it's Valentine's Day and went to get in some overtime at work. You had to call her cell phone to remind her.
Now there's a change of pace. The woman overlooked Valentine's Day for a change. Should you forgive her? You had better!
As a woman, I know the plight that other women face. He forgot my birthday. He forgot our anniversary. He forgot Valentine's Day the year before. Aren't women allowed to forget important dates once in a while too? Mistakes do happen, after all, as men so eloquently put it to us.
Besides, it really isn't the day that matters. What truly matters is the love you share with that special person, and making sure that you show it. People get so wrapped up in their daily routine, they forget one of the most important things in our lives; love.
Valentine's Day serves as a reminder to show our significant others how much we love them. That aside, it is just another day. Valentine's Day is not a national holiday. We do not get the day off from work with pay, unless we use vacation, a floating holiday or personal time. As a result, some people do not even celebrate Valentine's Day on February 14. So why not do the same?
Instead of chewing her out, make a date for the weekend. This way, you have more time to spend with one another, restaurants and other places won't be as crowded, and she won't have an excuse to flake on you again. Perhaps best of all, she will be so sorry she forgot in the first place, that she will do everything in her power to make up for it.
That is the thing about significant others forgetting special days. They know they messed up and hurt their loved one, and will strive to make things better. And if it is true love, we will forgive them.
Remember, it is not the day that is so important. What matters is that she loves you.
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Absolutely, under no circumstances, should a man forgive a woman for forgetting Valentine's Day. As a man, think about all the grief you've endured through the years for forgetting birthdays and anniversaries and other such nonsense. Think about all of the nights you've had to sleep on the sofa because you simply forgot about one day on the calendar. And think about her crazy stark-raving mad allegations: "you don't love me anymore!" "I must not be that important to you", or other such babblings.
Unless a woman has endured some kind of mental trauma, such as a coconut falling onto her noggin, there is no way she will ever "forget" Valentine's Day. It is genetically programmed into their DNA. I hate to say it, my friend, but if a woman "forgot" Valentine's Day, chances are she didn't forget at all...she just didn't want to celebrate it with you.
There is another reason why you shouldn't forgive a woman for forgetting Valentine's Day. You can always use it against her at a later time. Whenever she does something wrong or annoying, you can simply lord it over her and say, "Oh yeah? Well at least I remembered Valentine's Day!" Really, it's only fair, since women have been doing the same thing to men since the days of the caveman.
A woman forgetting Valentine's Day is like a man forgetting Super Bowl Sunday. It just doesn't happen. But if it does, it is most likely a signal of a much bigger problem. Perhaps she is celebrating Valentine's Day, but just not with you. I bet dollars to donuts, she's probably out being wined and dined by some other guy. Probably a much richer guy to boot. After all, why should she settle for your crummy Whitman's Sampler when she could be eating an all-expense paid dinner of filet mignon and Don Perignon with a doctor or a stockbroker?
Women aren't stupid. They know that Valentine's Day is an opportunity to be lavished with gifts. Therefore it is only logical that she is going to spend the day with the highest bidder. She's not going to settle for a half-dead dozen roses you picked up at Wal-Mart when some other shmuck can afford to give her a bottle of Chanel No. 5 or diamond earrings.
Personally, I think you would have to be nuts to forgive a woman for forgetting Valentine's Day. If there's anything I've learned about women over the years, it's that they are not prone to forgetfulness. And heaven help you if you decide to marry one. She will remember every single thing you've ever done; leaving up the toilet seat, cracking an in-law joke, not putting the cap on the toothpaste. The list goes on and on. My friend, if you forgive her for forgetting Valentine's Day, you might as well just sit on your poch and trade places with your doormat.
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