Abortions: Should the father have some say?

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by Kathleen Lynn

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This is a huge issue where I think fathers should have a say in the matter. Society has put father so low on the totem pole when it comes to children they sire. How often do you hear the term dead beat dad? Women will jump and yell when the child support is late. Maury Povach on his show capitalizes on father's being deadbeats and lecturing the men constantly.

For centuries women have fought for women's rights. In the case of children, however, men need to start standing up and fighting for some equality as well. There is more at stake than money in this people. Firstly, a woman can choose an abortion. Should she abort and take away the man's chance to be a father? That is his baby too. What if he is morally opposed to abortion and feels his soul is in danger with his religion because of her decision? Sure the choice was out of his control but it was still his child that died.

Then lets look at where a mother chooses not to abort the baby. Automatically the state will send a letter and begin taking money from that man to raise the child. He may not have even realized he had a child! And since the mother can choose abortion why can the father not say if I had known she was pregnant I would have paid for the abortion before I coughed up money for the next 18 years? It sounds harsh but it is assumed should the mother decide to raise the baby that he owes some form of responsibilty for her choice in the matter.

Now lets take a look at what happens when the father, possibly still in a state of shock, pays his child support on time and asks the mother if he can see the child? She says hell no, packs her bags and leaves the state. He in essence now has a monthly bill. He will never get to see this child unless he can afford to hire a private attorney to track her down and take her to court. We will look at that in a minute because that is still not a solution to the father's problem. But the state, which runs on state tax dollars paid by both men and women, takes the woman's side in children and welfare. She is granted the childsupport and the arrangement the state makes also guarentees the child some medical and dental coverage from the father. But she is under no obligation whatsoever to let the father see this child.

The state has no problems butting it's nose into the financial aspect of a child but feels it can't get its hands dirty with custody issues. They have no problem sucking the money out of a man's wallet but will not give him anything in return. In the case where he does hire the attorney and go to court he may win his case. Congratulations the battle for a man is over! Right? Wrong!

There are laws in place to justify abortions. There are laws in place to punish non paying fathers. There are no laws in place to enforce even a judge's decision on custody. Other than skipping the state or country where it becomes a kidnapping issue, no one can force her to hand him the child on weekends. An officer can advise it but in 90% of cases an officer will refuse to get their hands dirty in the private dispute.

I am a female and I see the injustice in our system for fathers. I will be the first female to stand up and ask the woman on national tv crying about her child support how often she willingly let the father be a part in the child's life or did she just take his money? If a female can choose to abort and never give a dime in the raising of a child against a man's wishes, why is he not allowed the same choices? We are prejudiced on all of these issues to side with women.

Sure it's her body changing, but it's income that will be affected for years and years to come with the outcome. It's a sad system when we are automatically prejudiced against men when it comes to children. Do you know that even if the father is the main caretaker of the children when a divorce happens 90% of the time the mother retains full custody if she asks for it. That is very sad. Very sad. I wish more people would make themselves aware of the men's side of view in all of these issues. Become informed and stand up for them because there aren't enough willing to speak out on behalf of men and let their voices be heard on parenting.

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