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Add to FavoritesI cannot even believe that this is a debatable topic. Of course a child with Aids should be available for adoption, why shouldn't they? What type of society would be if we only put up for adoption only the "good looking" kids, or the "smart" or even the "light haired" kids. All children deserve a family, whether they have Aids, Cerbreal Palsy, ADHD, or any other mental or physical disability. We are talking about children here, human beings with hearts, feelings, and minds of their own. They did not choose to be born with any complication, so why should they be punished for the way that they are.
Children are gifts from God; they deserve love, understanding, attention, and parents. They don't deserve to be looked down on, discriminated against, or even subjected to humiliation because of the way they were born. When you adopt a child you make a commitment to that child just as if that child was your own. You love them, cherish them, and take care of them. What some people fail to think that they were once children and how would they have felt if they were banned from something life changing because of a lifestyle issue they had no control over.
There are far too many children in this world that need families, and children in large numbers are striving for attention. Recorded neglection of children is at record highs and that's for children with families, so one can only imagine what a child without a family is going through. Is it fair that a child should go through life alone because they have an incurable disease? Call me silly, but in my opinion that triples the reason why a child should have a family. The child deep down inside knows they are not going to live a normal life, so why should you make a child waste have of their life looking for a family and facing only rejection.
A child with a terminal illness needs someone to be with them, to walk with them, talk with them, sit in at doctor's appointments, pray with, go shopping with, go on a family vacation. Here's a question you need to ask yourself, if for some reason you should have a child and should pass away let's say at child birth and your baby was born with a terminal illness, would you wish for your child to live a happy life with an adoptive parent? Would you want your child to be rejected a family simply because they are not in perfect health? I'm going to go out on a limb here and say "No". I don't know why this is a topic of debate, there should be no question, there should be no specifications on who could be adopted. Every orphan should have the same opportunity to have a forever family.
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Should children with AIDS be available for adoption?
With all my sympathies to the children with AIDS, I submit that the idea or proposal lacks many details that are necessary for consideration before taking a final decision, whether they should be made available for adoption. The proposal as it is, leaves many questions undecided or unanswered.
It is not known whether the children with AIDS are orphans or they have parents. Again it is not known,if the Children with AIDS have parents, they are healthy or they also have AIDS, because if the children with AIDS have parents they must have got the AIDS only from their parents.
It is also not known whether the parents of the children with AIDS are willing for such adoption. Taking the above aspects into consideration and taking certain other legal questions into account and even assuming that the parents of the children with AIDS are willing for adoption,I submit my views as follows.
It is always good for the child with AIDS to be with their parents to have their affection in a natural way. Both the child and the parents will also mingle with each other without any inhibition. The children with AIDS will find it very difficult to adapt themselves in the adopted family. They will not also have the natural love and affection, which they will have from their parents. On the other hand the children with AIDS will face a kind of ostracism in the adopted family.
Apart from that, in the case of a Hindu family which is willing to take the children with AIDS into adoption, there are many legal impediments in adopting them. First of all both the adopting father and the child with AIDS and the parents of the child should be Hindus Secondly, If the proposed child for adoption with AIDS is a boy, the adopting father should not have any other boy child in his family and if the child is a girl, the adopting father should not have any other girl child in the family.Thirdly, the adopting father should take the decision for adoption only after the approval of his spouse. Fourthly, the boy child being taken into adoption should be 15 years older than the adoptive mother and the girl child being taken into adoption should be 15 years older than the adoptive father.
Again the proposed child going to be adopted is having AIDS, it requires to be treated with humane consideration and sympathy etc whose life expectancy is unsure. The child with AIDS needs to be treated just like a normal child and a human being and I strongly doubt the bonafides of the adopting parents who are going to adopt the child with AIDS. Hence it is better to discourage such adoption, if the children with AIDS have parents. If they don't have parents, I suggest the following option.
I strongly recommend a home for such children with AIDS even at the cost of the government and allow them to live under the supervision of the specially trained people for this humane cause, rather than subjecting them to unnecessary legal formalities, desolation, cruelty and starvation etc in the name of adoption.
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