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Is giving up a child for adoption giving or selfish?

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Giving		85%	596 votes	Total: 698 votes
Selfish		15%	102 votes	Total: 698 votes

Giving

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by Ruth Woodhouse

I believe that for the majority of women who give up a child for adoption, the decision would be an intensely unselfish one. I refer to women because in the vast majority of ca...read more
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by Olivia Issacs

Is giving up a child for adoption giving or selfish? Absolutely GIVING! We have a young adult pregnant, in the midst of a divorce and custody battle for a three year old. Th...read more
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by Tasneem Khan

Hearing my baby's heartbeat on the foetal monitor inspired the most incredible feeling of love. The bond between parent and child was overwhelming and the desire to get to know...read more
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by Natalie

"A Birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart" Skye Hardwick When Birthmothers choose adoption they do not "give up a child" they opt to "give a ch...read more
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by Jennifer Williamson

As both a birthmother and an adoptee, I have encountered many birthmothers along the way, and have not met a single one who did not take her decision to make an adoption plan as...read more
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by Shannon Lawrence

With options such as abortion or child abandonment out there, adoption is a wonderful choice to make for those who cannot keep a child for any reason. It allows a child to be p...read more
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by Erin Knight

I believe giving a child up for adoption is the most unselfish decision a person can make. Mostly it is done with a lot of thought and love. It isn't something that is decided o...read more
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by Narti Walsh

I have been on both sides of this argument. When I was three years old, my mother had left the family to be with someone else and my father died. His death left my brother and...read more
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by Karrie Caudy

GIVING Giving up a child for adoption is giving the child a chance at a great life he would have never known about. But giving up the child without him able to trace his he...read more
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by Kerry Johnson

After 11 years of trying to become pregnant I found myself sitting in the office of a sweet elderly man with attorney on his nameplate, explaining to me that he was sorry but ad...read more
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by Lori Cascone

Having had fertility problems, I have no hesitation thinking adoption is the most selfless, giving act a pregnant woman can perform. When my husband and I were hanging by a thre...read more
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by Megan Steele

Such an interesting question. I guess in order to truly understand the depth and breadth of this topic, you would have to have experience in both sides. My mother and my grand...read more
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by Lynn Sinclair

I am the mother of two beautiful children. I have two of the most wonderful gifts ever placed on this Earth. My children were both adopted at birth and although they did not g...read more
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by Lauren Gutierrez

Choosing to give a child up for adoption is incredibly giving. When a woman becomes pregnant and she does not want to raise the child for any reason, including reasons some may ...read more
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by Jenny Martin

To give a child "up" for adoption is one of the most heart wrenching decisions any woman can make. No one but her knows how the first tiny kicks felt. No one but her knows...read more
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by Amber Deleni

It is selfish to keep a child that you know you cannot provide for when there are thousands of people qualified and waiting to adopt. It is nothing more than avoidance. Certainl...read more
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by Treasa Esposito

As both a mother and an adopted child I can't imagine a more heart rendering decion than to give a child up for adoption. There are many reasons why a mother might have to give ...read more
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by Dani Oldroyd

Personally I have experience on the receiving end of adoption so I am very bias on the subject. I feel that placing a child for adoption is very giving and not selfish in any wa...read more
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by Toni Doswell

The option is generally predicated by the question- "Do I want this baby, and am I fully prepared to take care of him/her for the next eighteen years?" Knowing that a young...read more
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by writeaboutit

You asked "Is adoption selfish?" I don't see it as a selfish act in fact I often view it as a gift, especially if you compare it to the alternative(abortion). To have someone ac...read more

Selfish

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by Allison Wallenberg

There are few memories etched so clearly in my mind as the day I came home without my first child. It was the last day I would be her mother, and by any standard, my motherhood...read more
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by Michelle Ann Newton

I am an adoptee, twice over. Yes. You read it correctly. I was not once, but TWICE adopted, prior to the age of nine. I have three legal names, and associated birth ...read more
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by Eli Boyatt

I think it is very selfish to put a child up for adoption unless the conditions will be bad for the child when they grow up. Because think about all the questions that poor chil...read more
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by Child Advocate

The term "gift of life" comes to mind here, which leads me to the selfish side of adoption. There are many families that put there children up for adoption to the highest bidde...read more
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by Carolyn Lanier

In our sociality it so much easier on us to give birth and hand our infant son/ or daughter over to strangers pretending that birth never happened rather then face a life time o...read more
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by J. Jewell

Let me begin by saying that this was a fairly difficult debate for me to choose a side. My first hand experience had led me to believe that each side has a legitimate argument. ...read more
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by Jessica Reed

Parenting or partying? That is the question a lot of young people have to answer these days. Yes yes, sad but true. So many women and now teenage girls are getting pregnant a...read more
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by Krislynn

Putting your mistakes and unwanted responsibilities on someone else because you cannot handle it is the pure definition of selfish. Especially when it involves a human child! So...read more
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by Kathy Griffin

What is selfish about adoption is the actions of our society that considers human life not worthy enough to be entitled to exist within their natural creative family. That we ha...read more
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by Doricela Araiza

Giving up a child is selfish. First of all, how could women give up their baby after they carried the baby for nine months? Many people think that by keeping the baby it will on...read more
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by Peter Akermann

I asked myself,how many children from a legally family are put for adoption by other family. In my own experience,here in the United States of America,is possible to be f...read more
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by Kim Sharpe

I suppose that it depends upon the circumstances of the adoption. However, I believe that in virtually all cases it is purely selfish on the birth mothers part. It doesn't ...read more
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by April Miller

I think that in the right situation adoption is ok. But there are just some reasons that just aren't good enough for putting a child up for adoption. If you get pregnant and you...read more

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