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Created on: March 04, 2008 Last Updated: October 11, 2009
There's an old saying, "A good friend is worth his weight in gold." It is true, if you have just one good friend, you should consider yourself lucky. A good friendship is a treasure that will enhance your life.
When we are kids, it is great to have one "best friend" to share your dreams, secrets, and have fun with all the time. By high school, we have gathered a small group of friendly "acquaintances" that we see every day, and sometimes we find a few who we can connect with as good friends.
The friends we make in school and college often stay in our lives long after school is over. As we continue our journey through life, we collect new friendships along the way. It is common to make acquaintances in the workplace and many times, become friends outside of work. It isn't unusual to build a friendship with someone who shares a common interest such as bowling, jogging, movies, etc. A friend can be found just about anywhere you go, for example, you can meet someone at a mutual friend's house, or at church, at a party, at the supermarket, or run into someone while walking the dog! You just never know whom you are destined to meet and make friends with.
There are some people you will remain friends with for your entire life. Others may come and go due to a long distance move, or a job change and even a divorce can jeopardize a friendship in certain cases. Nonetheless, some friends will keep in touch regardless of the distance in miles. I rather like the comfort of those kinds of friends, knowing that if you don't speak for a few days or weeks, that your friendship is intact. You will pick up right where you left off at the next visit. I'd call that a warm and comfortable friendship.
What is so special about having many friends is that you can count on some diversity among them. What I mean is, there is something unique and interesting about each one of our friends. No two of them are alike! Perhaps you have a friend that loves movies, so you know you can always call on him/her for a good time watching a film. Maybe another friend is a jock and loves hockey, but you know you can tag along to a game when you feel like it, and it will be tons of fun.
When you have a large circle of friends, it is almost certain that you will have a variety of personalities to call on. Every now and then, there's a friend who can be difficult or moody. You may get along famously when you are together, but you find yourself avoiding to invite over with other friends for fear he/she won't have a good time with the others.
One of my favorite things is inviting friends over. No matter how different everyone is, I know my friends will make the effort to enjoy themselves. There is a blending of interesting minds and conversations and they are there because of the friendships that connect you to one another. There is a sort of unspoken understanding and respect among good friends. And, as different as they all may be, there is a comfort that can't be explained about good friends. They all enjoy themselves because you are the common denominator! In other words, if you are friends with each one, that is the thread that links you all together. Let's suppose you have invited someone you just met at work to your party, and are looking forward to introducing him/her to your friends, but you don't worry, because you know you can count on your friends to be charming and welcoming to your new guest. Who knows, that new person may fit in so well, he/she will end up being part of the gang.
I once heard someone say, "A friend is a gift we give ourselves", and when you find a good one, you'll want to keep him/her forever. Of course, as with any gift, you must treat it with care and respect, and he/she will return the favor.
Learn more about this author, Carole Hill.
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Created on: April 30, 2008 Last Updated: February 23, 2012
A small group of quality people whose company you enjoy is far more rewarding than a large group of people with whom one may casually spend time with, but have very little in common with. Having a smaller more intimate group of friends is more sustainable than large groups of friends are. With a smaller group of friends you can and easily establish relationships based on intimacy, shared ideas and likes and develop a support system for yourself and your family.
With a small group of friends, you get the benefit of closeness and intimacy. Having a few good friends with whom you can build strong and solid relationships based on common factors can be good for the individuals involved as well as any family members. When you have just a small group of friends, you naturally develop closeness and a bond that can be lost in large groups. Granted you may not get invited to as many weddings, birthday parties or showers, but you will be rewarded with quality and you will save money on gifts.
Aside from the benefits and intimacy, small groups of friends can be far less draining than large groups can be. When associating with a small group, it is far easier to schedule time to nurture your friendship, when you aren't trying to spread your precious time around to too many people. The larger the group the more parties and dinners you are invited too, this leads to time constraints and often to hurt feelings. When keeping your group small, it's much easier to manage parties and dinners, allowing you to relax and enjoy the company you are in.
Small groups also offer a natural support group. When you have a small intimate group of friends and have built a strong bond amongst yourselves, you develop a natural support group of people who truly care and are willing to be there for you despite the time or difficulty you may be facing. This is often lost in large groups where the relationships are more casual.
A small group of friends is also family friendly. It's more probable that you will do family activities with a small group of friends and individual activities with a large group of friends. It's much easier to schedule family outings when your group of friends is smaller. With the average family consisting of 2.3 kids, activities such as bike riding, camping, boating or even scrap booking is much easier and memorable with 12 of you than with 30 people. Too many people in any given situation is a recipe for disaster, keeping your group of friends small is more likely to produce a memorable trip for the fun it was and not the chaos.
Aside from the benefits a small group of friends can offer, it's important to remember that quality is always more rewarding than quantity.
Learn more about this author, Stephanie Epplett.
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